Following each episode, a cast member of The Real Housewives of Vancouver will blog about their experience on the show for Dose.ca. For the sixth episode, Jody Claman returns to dish on the feud between Mary and Ronnie and her own feelings towards Mary.
Some of the ladies call me a bully and I do not blame them. You see, they have spent very little time in a true business environment. Have they had the opportunity to work, they would know that my businesslike approach is common amongst people with my type of background. I want to be very clear, I do not care if they think my opinion is valid or not, nor do I care if they change as a result of what I tell them my opinion is. I therefore feel their use of the word “bullying” is out of context.
I think that I am very honest and many people have a problem contending with that. I cannot alter who I am. I strongly believe that though my words might be painful in the short term, they are a true reflection of my opinion and might serve some purpose in the long term. In business, I learned that honesty is the best policy. I do not see why it should be any different in real life.
Regarding the feud between Mary and Ronnie, Mary is in the wrong. She takes pot shots at Ronnie from behind a text or some other shield, and then plays a victim after she’s confronted with it. Ronnie is reacting in real time to her hurt and anger – it comes across looking aggressive. Also, Mary is clever with how she handles Ronnie. In particular, Mary knows (after supposedly 17 years of friendship with Ronnie) where her Achilles heel is: alcohol. What’s the real reason for the fight between Mary and Ronnie? Who knows! As a bystander, I can only judge based on the scene, not the 17-year relationship.
If I ever find myself in the position where Mary was at the hotel event and she’s left alone, I would expect that my REAL friends stay with me. But as far as these ladies go, I do not consider any of them as friends. They are just acquaintances who I had the opportunity to know better as a result of this show. They are very different to me in terms of backgrounds, interests and morals. If I am to be friendly with any of them, I would have to compromise myself and who I am and as you know by now, I am not that sort of a person. So I do not think it is realistic to think that any of them should support me. This is the perfect example where I would honestly say that I prefer to be left alone. I am a big girl and I can take care of myself.
As for my own experience with Mary, the first time I met her was in Whistler. This was where she told me that she was sleeping with her ex-boyfriend (who has a new girlfriend by now) and that she has no problem with it. That alone speaks volume of her. The Jewish comment is the tip of the iceberg as far as what I hear comes out of Mary’s mouth behind my back. In that scene, Mary’s true nature and manners have been fully exposed. To imply that I lie about being Jewish – it doesn’t get lower than that. What was even more shocking is that she did not even own it! She was trying to imply that she was not the source of these rumours when I know for a fact that she was.
What I do like about Ronnie is her honesty. She is the only girl out there who is straightforward about what she thinks and she says it to one’s face (though it might not be justified or pleasant!). Also, I like the way she is with her kids and her commitment to charity.
To me, Mary is a troublemaker and I don’t appreciate that. If you have something to say, say it to my face. And most importantly, keep it professional. Do not go after my heritage or my kids.
The Real Housewives of Vancouver airs Wednesdays at 10 p.m. ET on Slice.
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